you know what?
i'll tell you. 
the secret.
the one that took me the best part of 25 years to figure out.
love ISN'T everything - it's something, for sure, maybe even a big something, and it might be the something you get out of bed for in the morning. it might be the something you pin all your hopes on. but it is NOT everything.
never let your heart get in the way of your head. 
love, but love sensibly, love because there's a reason.
do not lose your head.
do not forget all the pain someone caused you in the name of "love".
do NOT try and make a future because you love someone, when in reality, if you look at the cold hard facts, they don't deserve it.
don't love someone in spite of all evidence to the contrary. 


i guess in 2010 i learnt an important lesson. love really isn't everything. it never was. i was just blinded by it for too long.